by Rose Elder
The last three years of my life have been dedicated to my two boys. I have forgotten life before them. Right now I feel like I was born to be a mother; End of story. Being a mother when you are away from family and lifetime friends is a complete sacrifice. No breaks, none. No time to be oneself. I am Alexander’s and Nicholas’ mom.
Being a mother in San Diego makes life so much easier. We DO have the perfect weather 345 days of the year. We can be outside as much as we want. We get to see the sun most days and that makes me happy.
My sons inspire me to be a better person everyday. You realize they do as you do and they talk with the expressions you use. They act accordingly to how you act. It is not about what I tell them to do, they will do as they see and as they hear.
My oldest son’s personality has been a little bit of a challenge some days. Don’t get me wrong, he is wonderful. He is so smart, really funny and super loving. He just demands a lot of my time, love and attention. More than most children. I found myself losing my mind some days, and getting upset when he acts out to get even more attention. Alexander’s personality has helped me become a better person. I have learned, thanks to him, to find patience where there is none left. To give a hug instead of a scream. He has taught me that desperation brings out more desperation. That giving love brings out love. Bottom line, he outsmarts me. He taught me that he won’t bow to harsh discipline, that he will only respond to discipline with love and care. My mother always tells me, just hug him. My mother is always right.
Being a mother, like every other job, has some days that are more fun than others. Some days are harder, and some are pure joy. Most of them have a bit of both. All and all I have to admit I have never been happier than I am now being Alexander’s and Nicholas’ mom. People ask me all the time: “How do you do it?”. The answer is simple: You just do it. You don’t think too much about it. The kids drive you. You are set on D and go along for the ride.
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